Online Dating Advice: Same-Sex Messaging

September 10th, 2009 by Christian Rudder

We had many requests for the same-sex equivalents of last post’s charts, and we’d like to take a moment to discuss those. We didn’t include them in the original because they would’ve doubled the data we presented, which in our opinion would’ve made for an overwhelming number of charts and figures.

In any event, here they are in detail:

And here they are side-by-side with the straight charts from the first post:

Remarkably, the women-contacting-women curve in the upper left is close in shape to the men-contacting-women one in the upper right. And the two charts in the lower row, showing men-to-men and women-to-men, respectively, also share a similar curve. It seems that women, both gay and straight, respond better as messages get longer, while men, regardless of orientation, get turned-off as messages drone on. Apparently, reading style transcends sexuality. I’d be interested to hear your theories on why this is so.

The overall response rates are much better for same-sex messages (41% vs. 32% for straight messages). I ran these new numbers through last week’s message-efficiency calculations, and as it turns out, because of the low slope (flatness) of the first half of both graphs, the most efficient conversation starters for both kinds of same-sex contact is only 50 characters.

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