Same-Sex Data for Race vs. Reply Rates

As promised, here are the same-sex versions of last week’s charts and tables. In general, they show that straights and gays share many of the same inclinations, but the prejudices of the latter are perhaps a bit less pronounced. I should say at the top that some of the sample sizes for the various race/gender slices presented here are rather small (for instance, OkCupid doesn’t have many lesbians of Indian descent), and that accounts, I think, for some of the scatter-shot nature of the color tables. Race preferences are not nearly as stark here as they are with the heterosexual data.

See for yourself:

Still, there are a few conclusions we can draw:

  • Blacks get fewer responses. We saw this with the straight data, too, and here it’s true of both gay and lesbian senders. Black gay men get over 20% fewer responses than non-blacks, which is about how straight black men fared. Black women, on the other hand, do relatively much better with gays than straights. While they’re still the least replied-to group, the discrepancy is much smaller in the lesbian community.
  • Whites respond by far the least to anyone.. Both white lesbians and white gay men write the fewest replies. In fact, across the two charts, whites respond about 15% less often than non-whites, and white gay men show a marked preference for other whites. On the other hand, gay white women don’t have the segregationist tendencies of their straight counterparts; they just dis everyone. Whereas last week we saw that straight white women strongly preferred other whites to the exclusion of other groups, lesbian whites respond to all 9 racial groups roughly evenly, and, in general, the lesbian community seems relatively colorblind. Only Indian lesbians receive a response rate far off the average, and as I said above, the sample size there is limited and the results might be skewed by chance.
  • Asian lesbians are in demand, and they’re picky about other races. Gay Asian females are replied to the most, and, among the well-represented groups, they have the most defined racial preferences: they respond very well to other Asians, Whites, Native Americans, and Middle Easterners, but very poorly to the other groups. Latin women also express a clear preference, for Whites and Asians.
  • Men prefer Middle Easterners. Gay men and straight men both respond best to Middle Easterners, and the preference is quite dramatic. I’d be interested to hear any theories why this is so.

As we did last week, we can see that all groups think, theoretically, that interracial relationships are acceptable, yet again whites are the least willing to have such a relationship themselves. This time it’s the men, not the women, who prefer most to keep to their own: it’s interesting that both in reply patterns and in their answers to these two match questions, the behavior of white straight women and white gay men are so closely parallel.

To our friends in the gay and lesbian communities: thanks for being patient and waiting for this data. We will do gay-centric articles in the future, I promise. Lately, since we’ve been dealing with complex and data-intensive subjects like race and reply rates, we’ve had to restrict ourselves to straight data in the primary post. We felt that adding a discussion of gay and lesbian trends alongside straight ones would triple the length of an already long and dense post and surely more than triple reader confusion. We will keep looking for ways to present the information you rightly expect; for now, it will be in addenda such as this one.

55 Responses to “Same-Sex Data for Race vs. Reply Rates”

  1. hope says:

    As a black lesibian, my experience in northern citties has been the opposite. It might be because I identfy as Butch but, I have found for the last tweenty years that black women my age won’t even consider going out with me or even tolerate me in thier spaces. In fact, I find that trying to socialize with them in any way, consitutes a violation of thier dignaty and thier womanhood. For some reson, I’ve always had a better(less loud and rude) response from any other race. You just can’t let things like this get you down.

  2. Marc says:

    “Jane says:
    October 8, 2010 at 10:30 pm

    Not gonna lie. I’m a bi Asian female and I would date a black woman but not a black man. I would sleep with a black man, though.”

    Wow…Jane. As a black man, I wish I could explain to you how offensive and disgusting your comment is.

    But, I have a feeling I’d be wasting my words/breath…

  3. Christian Alexander Tietgen says:

    Gay guys are like girls. Interesting. Thank you for the data.

  4. A.M says:

    Bing a bi racial, bi chick, I seriously never thought race as a factor on here. Sorta shocking to me I guess.

  5. Mac says:

    While I haven’t slept with a middle eastern man myself (not because of a preference either way, just hasn’t occurred yet), I’ve spent time on gay dating websites, and spent some time in their chatrooms. “Chat” of course would be a charitable way to refer to what occurs there, but that’s beside the point.

    From what I’ve picked up watching the chats, a large part of the preference for middle eastern men comes from them being tall, dark, and handsome. A bigger part comes from the idea of them being dominant ‘tops’. But I think even more so, its the reputation for big penises. But I can’t vouch for the trueness of the stereotype. I mean, blacks have the same stereotype, and they seem to be less popular according to the data…